Hey Tigers! My name is Dilsa Lalji and I am classified as a sophomore at Clemson. I recently earned an Associates of Arts degree in Business Administration from San Antonio College in Texas, which ultimately led me to decide to transfer to Clemson for my Bachelor’s degree. I am majoring in Business, to be more specific, Management with an emphasis in Entrepreneurship, and I cannot wait to share my journey with all of you through my writing. And now to answer some questions

Question #1: What are some good ways to address people around the dorm not social distancing?

Communication is always the best way to go. Note that it’s the way that you deliver your message that matters the most. When you are expressing your concerns regarding people not practicing social distancing, do not be mean about it because it will only make them do it more, and that, my friend, is not going to help you at all. Be kind and courteous, but also be honest about how their actions are affecting you. You can do this by telling them the following

“Please practice social distancing because you can get coronavirus and it will spread like wildfire. Not only will you be dealing with the guilt of getting other people sick, but you will also be dealing with taking care of yourself if you get the virus.”

Remind them of the risks they are taking by not practicing social distancing

You can also say the following: 

“Just because you think you don’t have the virus doesn’t mean that you can walk around and not stay six feet away from other people. That is inconsiderate.”

The words are harsh, but your tone doesn’t have to be. Speak as nicely as possible…and if all else fails, use your harsh tone. 

Question #2: How do I fit in and how do I make friends?

Let me just start by saying that there is no fitting in. After all, why would you want to fit in when you are born to stand out? (Well said, Dr. Seuss). 

As for making friends, don’t be afraid to start a conversation with someone in class. Though, it will be harder to talk to someone since everyone will be practicing social distancing even in class, but I know some ways you can still communicate with people.

Start a conversation by using Post-it notes. All you have to do to start a friendship is to write “Hi” but also make sure to stay consistent in communicating with them. Ask them for their Snapchat after class.

You can also Airdrop each other random memes and images. Memes are a great way to start a friendship. I mean, who doesn’t love memes?

Also, side note, do not do these things during class (you are paying money to get an education so pay attention). I suggest doing these things before class starts.

Additionally, it will be easier to make friends if you join clubs and organizations. Clemson has over 400 hundred clubs and organizations, which surprisingly includes a chocolate milk club. You can pick and choose which clubs or organizations interest you the most.

 If you choose to join the chocolate milk club, let me know if you get free chocolate milk.

While making friends, remember to wear a mask, sanitize your hands and stay six feet apart from one another. Be safe out there, Tigers!

Question #3: I am moving into the dorms soon. What if my roommate doesn’t like me?

It’s simple. Before moving-in, I suggest you find a way to get in contact with them and introduce yourself to them. Take initiative. 

I also suggest that you take responsibility for sharing a dorm with them by mentioning that you will do your part to keep the dorm as clean as possible. Make sure that you actually do your part, by the way. You have to keep your word because people like roommates who are clean, responsible and trustworthy so try to show them that you are all of those things.

Make sure to communicate with your roommate(s) from time to time. Don’t just walk into your dorm and ignore them. Start a conversation. Get to know them and earn their trust. They will like you if they trust you as a roommate. It will take some time, of course, but be patient with them and yourself. 

Question #4: How do I stay focused on my studies and have time for extracurriculars?

It’s all about time management and keeping yourself accountable. These skills are hard to learn for incoming students, but it’s not impossible. It takes practice and discipline.

Start by making a schedule. Make it so that you actually follow it. Set aside a certain amount of time in your schedule dedicated to extracurriculars. Additionally, whenever you do have free time, make the most of it by getting your homework done even if it’s not due that day or week. It will free up more of your time. The earlier you get things done, the easier it will be to find time to do whatever you want.

Remember to keep yourself accountable. For example, if you waste your time not being productive and doing something else (like napping or going out with friends), use the free time that you scheduled for yourself to finish all of your homework and assignments. And to keep yourself motivated, think about the grades you want to earn for your classes. Without hard work and consistency, you will get absolutely nowhere, so don’t distract yourself with unnecessary activities, and go earn that A. 

Also, try not to do too many extracurriculars. Stick to two or three, and if you can juggle two to three activities and still have time to do your assignments, then and only then can you join more extracurriculars. 

That is all I have for this week, Tigers. Please continue to submit your questions to tinyurl.com/tig2tig or on Instagram @thetigercu. 

Stay safe and wear a mask